RECEIVING DETAILS ABOUT YOUR DONOR.
Following your liver transplant you may have lots of thoughts about the person who kindly donated such a precious gift, the donor, and also their family. This is quite common after such an operation.
In the early days after the transplant you will need to recover physically.
You may also feel quite emotional during the first few weeks following your operation as you start adjusting to life with a new liver and medication.
However, you will know if and when the time is right for you to receive details about your donor. It is a very individual process and the Liver Recipient Transplant Coordinators will help you with any queries or concerns.
They can provide you with some anonymous details about your donor.
The details that they are able to give you about your donor are: Age, Sex, Next of kin and an area that they lived, ie Wales, West Midlands, or the South West, etc. Some patients also ask why the donor died, they can provide this information if you want to know. They will only give you the information that you asked for.
In this first letter it is important that all parties remain anonymous. You should not include any information that might lead to your identity. That means you should not include last names, streets or numbers, email addresses names of hospitals and names of physicians and staff. If there is further correspondence or contact and both parties agree to exchanging identities then and only then is it appropriate to do so.
The safest assumption you can make is that the donor family is still grieving, regardless how much time has passed. Communicating with sensitivity is of utmost importance.
- Open your letter with “Dear Donor Family”
- Thank the donor family for their gift
- Speak about your transplant experience – consider including details surrounding your wait, the surgery and recovery
- Elaborate how the transplant has changed your life
- Use first names only and talk about yourself and your family
- Mention your occupation and any activities which you once again can now enjoy
I will never be able to tell you all the feelings that I have for your family, but I want you to know how grateful I am, etc.
I would like to thank you for your generosity in giving a part of your loved one to me. I am very sorry for your loss, etc.
I am growing stronger and healthier every day and keep your family in my thoughts and prayers always, etc.
What a blessing you have given me, I keep your family in my thoughts and prayers, etc.
Thank you for entrusting me with a living legacy from your loved one, I will treasure the gift
I have often thought about what I would say to the people who in a time of grief and despair could think of others and donate a loved one’s organs. I received a ——- I felt that I had to write to you to express my gratitude, it is difficult to find the words to adequately express my feelings. “Thank you” just doesn’t seem enough.
My doctor tells me I was within weeks of total ——– failure when I received the ——– It was a perfect match and has worked perfectly from the moment it was transplanted into me. I haven’t had any trouble, rejection, or sickness since. My health and energy have returned, and I was able to return full time to my job as a ——— ?
months after the operation.
Besides resuming all my previous activities, I got to enjoy our daughter’s wedding etc. . I have also become a grandmother with my other daughter and I have you to thank for the health to enjoy this as well as life itself again.
I thank the Lord each day for you and your decision to donate. I will keep you always in my prayers. May the Lord bless you and your family for your selfless and generous heart.
Thank you for my health and life!
Our prayers are with the donor family, and we pray that GOD gives you the strength and comfort to be strong and just keep those special memories close to your hearts, where they belong.
All my family have now signed donor cards.
These two words seem so inadequate for the gift of life you have given me, you have given me a second chance of life.
I must offer my deepest sympathy for your loss, mere words from a stranger, but heartfelt just the same. Perhaps.
I knew nothing about the donor only that they must have been kind, caring, compassionate and generous, something they had to have learned from you, their family.
I only hope that I am able to justify the use of this wonderful gift.
Not a day goes by without me thinking of the donor and their family who without I would not have had a second chance to live.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart etc.
A grateful recipient.
I have been trying to write this letter for —— months now, that was when both our worlds were turned upside down and will never be the same.
But somehow, through your grace and generosity I received the most tremendous gift of all.
I received a ——- on that day from someone unknown to me yet more special than I could ever have known.
To say a mere Thank You on paper seems so insufficient, please know that I think of my donor and pray every day for the gift that I have been given.
I hope that as you read this, you find the smallest bit of comfort in knowing that in your decision to donate has given me my life back again, for which I will be eternally grateful, thank you and god bless you,
A very grateful recipient.
I don’t really know what to say except thank you. I wanted to let you know what a difference your kindness has made to my life.
I am —– years of age and have —— wonderful children, it is wonderful to watch them grow up, a dream i thought I would never see.
I will never be able to tell you all the feelings that I have for you, but i want you to know how grateful I am for the chance you have given me to continue living a normal life. I would like to thank you for your generosity, words can’t begin to describe how grateful I am to you.
I have grown to appreciate life and I do not take it for granted,
A grateful recipient.
I will never be able to tell you all the feelings that i have for your family, but I wanted you to know how very grateful I am.
I would like to thank you for your generosity in giving a part of your loved one to me.
I am very sorry for your loss.
I am growing stronger and healthier every day and keep your family in my thoughts and prayers always.
What a blessing you have given me, thank you for entrusting me with a living legacy from your loved one.
I will treasure this gift always.
God bless you,
A very grateful recipient.
May I express my condolences on the loss of your loved one. My thoughts and prayers are with you and will be so for the rest of my life.
My name is ——, I am 49 etc. and I’m married with two grown up children. I have been ill with liver disease for sometime and was told that a liver transplant was the only option.
Since then my condition deteriorated and I was constantly tired and had difficulty walking. I waited ? months for my transplant and I cannot describe the difference it has made to my life and also to the life of my family. The doctors are very pleased with my progress and my life, which was on hold, has started again.
I am aware that it is purely because of your kindness that I have been given a second chance. Out of your grief has come joy for me and my family. To say thank you seem inadequate but I do so from the bottom of my heart. I often think of you and my donor, and you all will always be in the thoughts and prayers of me and my family.
My Thoughts and prayers are with you always
A grateful recipient.
If you would like to contribute your own personal thank you letter to help other liver patients write theirs, then please get in touch. It would be greatly appreciated.
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